April Webinar Recap
Click here for the webinar recording!“The Mentorship Playbook: Winning Strategies for Students and Professionals”
In April, BYU Connect had the privilege of partnering with Hillary Nielsen, a member of the BYU Alumni Board. Our discussion with Hillary provided valuable insights into building meaningful and productive relationships between mentors and mentees.
1) Common misconceptions about mentorship
Hillary began by addressing common misconceptions that students and alumni may have about mentorship. She emphasized that these relationships can be informal and that curiosity on both sides is essential for fostering a positive mentor–mentee connection.
2) Best first questions mentees can ask
Hillary explained that the most effective questions are those that invite stories, seek wisdom, and encourage genuine conversation.
Some example questions were:
- If you were starting again in my position, what would you focus on?
- What skills matter most in this field?
- What mistakes should someone early in their career avoid?
- How did you make important decisions when opportunities came up?
3) How mentees can avoid coming across as transactional
Hillary shared a simple formula to help mentees avoid appearing “job-seeking” or insincere: ask for advice, apply it, report back, and express gratitude.
4) How mentees can follow up
Hillary emphasized that consistency matters more than frequency when it comes to building meaningful relationships with mentors.
5) How to be a great mentor despite limited time
Even in a short 10–15 minute meeting, mentors can make an impact by getting to know their mentee and sharing one meaningful lesson they’ve learned through experience.
6) How mentors can set boundaries
Hillary noted that setting clear expectations from the beginning is key to maintaining healthy boundaries. She also emphasized that boundaries and generosity can coexist.
7) How to make mentoring feel rewarding rather than a burden
Hillary concluded the webinar by highlighting that mentoring is a two-way exchange: mentors gain fresh perspectives, while mentees build confidence and grow.
